• What should be happening?
• Why is it not happening?
• and attempts to allow the body to heal itself back to where there needs no other tinkering.

These days:

1. We live in a contaminated environment,
2. We marry and settle far later than any other generation,
3. Contraception has allowed us extensive ‘play’ time, and the choice to ignore nature, and we ourselves as a result of all of this and the real social changes that have occurred due to this, find ourselves at a point where babies are not expected with unprotected sex, but hoped for.

What to do?

Infertility is not a disease, but is often treated as though it were a condition separate to the couple’s life and loving environment.

What do I mean?

IT IS THE COUPLE WHO ARE NOT GETTING PREGNANT.

Why not?

Having VERY regular sexual union – at least every second day, all through the cycle, except when frankly bleeding – is the first step.

1 - SEXUAL FREQUENCY

Holding back till the “fertile” time of the month may be all that is stopping pregnancy from happening - there are many of us who have ‘fallen’, whilst using this method as a contraceptive. Conception happens within a woman’s body, and randomly occurs – regardless of the male/ rational/medical take to the contrary.

We can drop an egg off, whenever. This happens – and if you are for years ensuring days 12- 14 are covered, this may be the only thing that has stopped you being parents. LOOSEN UP!!!

Waiting for the ‘maybe baby’ apparatus to give a green light is hardly inviting . . .

There are many reasons why teenagers are easily pregnant – and frequency is one of them.
Turn of fall the electronic devices – especially the TV, and rediscover each other’s bodies. Pretend the power is off, and bed is the only entertainment . . . .

2 – HE SEES THIS AS A WOMAN'S THING.

Bad move.
Men are not fertile in the mammalian stakes to begin with.
An earlier life of ‘being one of the boys’ with the uni drinking culture, having sexual relations with multiple partners, eating irregularly and drinking heaps of coffee and possibly having a stint of the bong or whatever with marijuana in youthful days are all very good reasons, separately or together why the sperm are still struggling.

Goggling any site that has any of these factors – plus the big one – cigarette smoking – and you will see that there is work to be done - and the woman trying to make up the difference by being super vigilant with herself, is always EVER going to be half the equation.

Then, in addition, we have the general toxicity of our modern environment (try Goggling ‘environmental factors and male fertility”. Look at ‘hormonal disruption’ and you will start to understand why at least taking a range of very good quality supplements; drinking only pure filtered (non chilled) water and cutting all extra contaminants from here on is a smart move.

The keen will go organic.

Then, we have the odd jobs that may have allowed you to get where to now are – and specific employment contaminants are in common working environments – solvents, inks, anything with a strong smell – and then there is the HEAT issue – especially if working in a very hot place, and/or sitting down with the groin getting constructed – think all office workers. Add to this, the emanations of the modem, mobile phone and various wireless electronic devices, and the picture gets more sperm unfriendly by the minute.

3 - LOVING ENVIRONMENT. . . . .

This is a novel inclusion in the topic you may think.

Yet – do you both really dance to the same drum?
Are you both equally committed to this marriage/this baby project?

These are searching questions for a reason.
There is an acupuncture line of energy that travels from the heart area to the uterus.

Women are intuitive creatures.

They feel.
They may not be able to verbalize, and you as a man may think it irrational, and silly, yet, one of the special features of a woman is that she is able to drop down into mammalian functioning.

Why have her in the workplace, where this is knocked out of her?
Why have her worrying about the cute creature in the office?

The commitment to have a life together and a family is primal.
No place for extras – of human or electronic natures.

Respect for her feelings, her sensuality and her womanhood are important considerations.
She is different to a man - that is why you are with her.

WHAT TO DO?

Get a copy of “Getting There” DVD – available here. This will allow you to see the quality issues that men need to address to ensure it is not their sperm that are getting her pregnant, only to have yet another miscarriage as her body does the ly sensible thing, and gets rid of a non performing embryo.