One of the key periods in our lives when we are able to re-make ourselves or conversely to completely waste our constitutional inheritance is during pregnancy up until the end of breast feeding. As our culture places such high regard for the appearance of perfection rather than paying attention to the energy side of the equation, it is usual for the new mother to attempt to do everything as though she were superwoman.

The most important thing the father can do for the mother is to change his attitude about her inherent maternal instincts and her abilities to soldier on regardless. If he wishes to have a sane, happy and healthy mother for his child/children the post-birth period is the window of opportunity to enhance or destroy the future health.

The shock of not having a minute to call your own often after living a highly structured orderly existence is compounded by sleep deprivation, body image issues and the unresolved, untreated and unrecognised after effects of undergoing the birthing experience.

Most women lift and carry washing, inhabited baby capsules and toddlers because they feel they need to. They may be physically capable of so doing but the internal physical and energy structures have been weakened and require time to return to the pre-birth state.

Whilst breast feeding the mother’s body remains soft. Attempting to return to pre-baby shape by attending gyms, doing workouts and other muscular pursuits can cause long term damage. Women’s bodies require toning, touching and time to heal.

Many women, often decades after birth know that their current health problems began after or around the birth of one of their children. One of the most important things a new mother can do is to rest when the new baby sleeps.

The housework, cooking, nappies and other children always seem to take priority over her own body needs. This is a recipe for difficulties in the decades when the children and often the husband are long gone from the nest.